Fighting Couples – How To Get Your Relationship Back On Track After Fighting With Your Man

Fights, arguments and major disagreements all happen at some point in a relationship. It is eminent and is perceived as the ultimate “bad thing” in a relationship. Yes, it is bad but it can be used to create good in the relationship if you know what to do after the fight. Using this time after the fight to reconnect, make up and clear out all of the relationship clutter can make a relationship stronger in the end.

Here are a few skills you can learn in order to get your relationship back on track with your man after the big fight.

– Learn to show your sense of humor after the fight.

Bring to the table your sense of humor when trying to make up especially if the fight was over a trivial issue. Say you are sorry, share a good laugh and make the best of whatever is left of the day.

– While making up start to listen.

While the lines of communication are open when making up, start to really listen to what your man is saying. Stop interrupting, discounting what he has to say or contriving your comeback and start really listening to what he is saying.

Try to understand his point of view while listening to his explanation. You do not always have to have center stage. Let your man be the center of attention for once. Once he believes you are really trying to see his point of view, it will be much easier to get him to give you the same amount of attention.

– Use the fight as an experience to wake up.

Learn from the fighting experience to wake up and keep the lines of communication open. This will help you to get things off your chest before they build into a big explosion. Keeping things bottled up will make it easier to explode during the smallest disagreement.

– You do not always have to agree.

Learn that it is okay to agree to disagree. Even though you want to promote peace and harmony in your relationship you will not always see eye-to-eye on every issue with your man. Learn that it is fine if you both think you are right and not constantly debate the issue. If the issue is not earth shattering, just “let it be” and learn, each to his own, so what.

– Kiss and make up.

Let’s face it. The best part of fighting is the make up sex. Remember, it is more fun to make love not war. If the “making up” is fantastic, the fighting is soon forgotten. It is up to you to make up and make it memorable in order to get your relationship and your man back on track. This will ultimately make your relationship and the world around you better for it.

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